Sep 5, 2025
How to Start Talking About the Future — Even When It Feels Hard
The Conversation We All Avoid
For most of us, talking about death feels uncomfortable. It’s one of those topics that sits quietly in the back of our minds — something we know we should face, but rarely do. The truth is, we often avoid the conversation because we don’t want to upset the people we love, or because we’re not sure where to begin.
But the simple act of talking about the future — about what matters to us, and how we want to be remembered — can bring incredible relief. It opens doors to understanding, connection, and peace of mind for everyone involved.
Why These Conversations Matter
When we leave important things unsaid, we leave space for uncertainty. Our loved ones might wonder what we wanted, or worry that they won’t honour our wishes. Talking about the future, even briefly, removes that burden.
It’s not a conversation about dying — it’s a conversation about living well until the end. It’s about ensuring your values, preferences, and relationships are understood.
When to Bring It Up
There’s rarely a perfect time to talk about end-of-life wishes, but there are gentle opportunities to ease into it.
After a meaningful life event — a birthday, a move, a family gathering.
When reviewing things like a will or life insurance.
When sharing memories — “Do you know what I’d want for my celebration of life?”
The goal isn’t to have one long conversation, but many small, compassionate ones.
How to Start Gently
Lead with love. Begin by saying why you’re bringing it up: “I want to make sure I’ve made things easy for you later.”
Share something personal. Talk about your memories, your favourite songs, your values — it helps the conversation feel warm and human.
Use stories as bridges. “I read about a family who used a MemoryBox to share messages after someone passed — I think I’d like to do something like that.”
What to Expect
People may feel emotional, surprised, or even relieved. These conversations are tender by nature, but once they start, they often bring families closer together.
How Lasted Helps
Lasted’s MemoryBox gives you a private space to record messages, stories, or wishes at your own pace. You can share them when the time feels right — or keep them safe until later.
Sometimes, taking that first step digitally is easier than starting face-to-face. Once your thoughts are down, you’ll find it easier to talk openly with loved ones.
Because Love Is Saying It Now
Talking about the future isn’t about loss — it’s about love. It’s saying, “I care about you so much, I want to make sure you’re okay no matter what.”
That’s not a difficult conversation. That’s one of the kindest ones you’ll ever have.